Suitability Over Performance?

My husband and I were discussing showing horses.

Me: “I’m not so sure Howdy and I would do well in certain circles that many of the younger generations would likely avoid also.”

Hubby: “What do you mean?”

Me: “Howdy and I are not suitable for certain (air quotes) classes.”

Hubby: “Like dressage?”

Me: “I’m not sure if that would be the case for dressage. Maybe dressage would be a part of it. I don’t know what the criteria is for ‘show horses,’ but I’m not interested in showing my horse for ribbons and trophies.

I don’t want to have to put a blanket on my horses because they have to look ‘pretty’ for the judges. I don’t want to have to clip my horse’s coat so the judges are content with their judgements. I want to show my horses for them to be critiqued on their performance for improvement. Not for looks.

A horse can look pretty and do all the things just to do the thing. However, when they’re in the barn, they might not have manners and they may be useless when it comes to ranch tasks. They’re ornaments and I’m not into ornaments.

I do not like being called or treated like an ornament. Because of that, I do not want ornamental horses. Give me a realistic horsemanship competition that helps horses gain well-rounded courage where they can come as they are because horses don’t go to shows in the wild.”

Hubby: “Oh. Okay. I see what you mean now.”

Me: “Looks are shallow. It’s what’s under the hood that matters to me. Is it a six-banger? Does it have towing capacity? Or is it all shell with a wimpy four-banger that just looks ‘pretty’? A pretty horse doesn’t mean it will have a bright future on someone else’s ranch. I do not want a yard pet. I want a horse with character. Much like my partner.”

Source article of inspiration: Cindy Hale, ‘Horse Show Solutions: Suitability Counts‘, Horse Illustrated

Horsing Around 2023 December 21

Howdy 2023 Dec 21

Finding the fine balance between recovery, pain management, and getting exercise to make progress is a skill I haven’t completely figured out yet after this surgery. Managing the feeling of frustration, irritation, depression, and aggravation has not been easy and I applaud my husband for understanding and staying kind.

When Dad was sick and dying, I didn’t understand his short temper. As a teen, we enjoy entertaining the idea we know a lot about everything. At least, it used to seem that way. Now, I’ve gotten a glimpse of where Dad was at emotionally back then.

I’ve been trying to find that sweet spot between getting exercise to stay mobile during recovery and needing some horse time to help regulate my emotions post surgery. The recovery process is slow going and at least I can spend some time in the barn testing my pain threshold.

Pushing my limits has always been difficult because I have to push myself over the edge to figure out where I need to stop. I’m learning how to be gentle with myself and that is not an easy process.

Watching my husband do barn chores on his own is annoying because I want so much to jump in and dig with him.

I would like to think I can at least push the wheelbarrow around and the risk of delaying my recovery would only serve to add more frustration to the process. So, I’m trying to ease my way into moving more with the horses.

Helping Fansee build confidence was risky. She seems to desire some attention and has been bidding for connection. I’ve tried to keep some distance for a while because one good kick could send me back to the hospital. Today she seemed fairly docile and I thought I would try free-lunging her. If it got too precarious, I could always send her off to keep her at a distance. It turns out, that wasn’t necessary. She’s such a pleasurable horse to work with.

Howdy did fabulous. We changed his feed to Wild Fed Horse Feed and it has made a difference. He’s eating everything in his bowl and he seems more calm than he has been. When spring comes, we will see. In the meantime, we seem to have the sugar sensitivity under control.

We’re not affiliated with Wild Fed. We’re simply ecstatic with the feed. It is more expensive than what we have been getting. At the same time, we don’t have to purchase all the supplements we’ve been buying while trying to manage his starch and sugar intake to minimize the risk of laminitis and diabetes. In the long run, we’re actually saving time and money.